Profilo utente

Jordy Pallawa

Note biografiche Not just this one individual and we were more specific about what the expectations would be. And with those boundaries in place, I got my money back. There was another situation where the same individual asked for some money under a different condition.

And based on that I was not willing to loan the money. So again, that would be a boundary. Somebody asks you for money and because of what I know about that person, now I'm not trying to change them, I'm not trying to control them, I'm just focusing on me. And I'm making a decision that, "No, I won't loan you the money."

That boundaries in place to keep me safe. To keep me from losing money that I don't want to lose. We can do the same thing in a lot of different settings or situations. So, let's say somebody invites us to go with them, to do something.

And we know that that person maybe is kind of impulsive, they don't always use the best judgment, that they often find themselves in kind of difficult predicaments Where we can set a boundary and just say, "No, I'm not going to go to this place with you. I'll hang out with you but we'll do it in this setting."

Now, again, I'm not trying to control them. I'm just setting a boundary. I'm saying, "Yeah, I'd like to hang out with you but I'll hang out with you here not here." We're doing this event not doing this event. So, those are ways in which we can use boundaries to keep ourselves safe.

Where we look at what we know about the other person, we make decisions and choices on what we're comfortable with and with things over which we have control and then we just set that boundary with them. Oftentimes, that's difficult to do because we're afraid of hurting their feelings.

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